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Water Safety: Complacency = Casualties

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On 2 January 2019, 7News reported that there have been 46 drowning deaths over the Christmas holiday period. They noted that this toll is up from 31 the previous year. And on 27 January 2019, Royal Life Saving Australia recorded the current drowning death toll to be 82! Having increased from 53 at the same time last year. According to these stats, that means that just in the last 25 days, 36 people have drowned. That is more than one person every day.
Surely these statistics would be enough to jolt us out of a state of complacency? And yet, I frequently observe parents being over-confident in their children’s swimming abilities and blatantly disregarding the need for adult supervision. Communal complex living appears to be a high-risk area for this complacency since children are given the freedom to play in the roads within the complex together without any adult supervision. And this relaxed attitude toward supervision then extends to the communal swimming pool area as well. Many paren…

Just One Word...

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As we embark on a new year, a new blank book, there is a flurry of mixed emotions as we frantically try to set new resolutions. We solemnly promise to commit to these somewhat unattainable self-imposed expectations, while simultaneously chastising ourselves for all the previous resolutions that we failed to achieve. Sound familiar?
This year has been a turning point for me. On New Year’s Day, I received a well-wishing sms from one of my friends. The sms said: “May the New Year bring all your hopes and dreams. My New Years word is FOCUS.” This prompted me to question what my own 2019 word might be and why.
I particularly like the methodology behind this way of thinking. Instead of setting stringent goals, tied to one specific outcome, this approach is all-encompassing. It allows us to view our year ahead in a more holistic way. What do I want to achieve in all areas of my life? And rather than being a tangible goal, this is more of a mindset shift. By changing the way I perceive my year …

Celebrating Family

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Christmas is a time for celebrating all of the magical memories that have been created by the ones you love. Your heart is filled with abundance, happiness and blessing because of all the special people in your life. Isn’t Christmas therefore also the most perfect time to celebrate these amazing people by showing them how much you appreciate them? Every one of us has a book that is filled with a different story.

Every book has endured some heart ache along the way, and chapters where it was easier to cry than to laugh; but as Christmas approaches, let’s turn to those chapters in our book that have made our hearts overflow with love. And let’s make sure that the chapter we are currently writing is filled with gratitude, appreciation and special heart-felt thank-you’s for all the treasured people who make up our story.

The Gift of Giving This year, let’s focus less on the amount spent on each gift, and more on the thought and individual touch that you have placed into each gift. People lov…

Faith, Trust and Pixie Dust

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As a mother of a young daughter, the mantra Faith, Trust and Pixie Dust is something that is heard in our house at least once a week. If you are nodding in agreement, it means you also have an avid Tinkerbell fan in your home. We have two, and not both are children. Genna and I love watching Tinkerbell movies; and yes, we own the full DVD collection.
For those of you who have no idea what I’m talking about, let me explain:
Tinkerbell is a tenacious fairy who often finds herself in a sticky situation due to her hard-headedness. But she possesses many character traits that I admire. Tinkerbell is quick to admit when she makes a mistake, taking responsibility for her actions. She also doesn’t accept defeat and is always determined to find a solution to her predicament. Once Tinkerbell has figured out the correct path of action, she is unstoppable. Her ever-supportive friends accompany her on a daring quest that requires concentration and clear thinking. Each time before they embark on the…

Using Gratitude to Overcome Adversity

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How easy it is to allow our ego to bruise our wounds even further. When we have just received an unexpected punch from life, and are desperately seeking a nurturing hand to lift us up; our ego appears with a firm palm pressing us down hard. It laughs condescendingly while repeating many discouraging affirmations: "I am a failure. I will never recover from this. My life is a total mess. I was so stupid to even have tried."

To bravely stand in confidence when life has knocked us down requires courage and strength. And to generate these qualities under our ego’s suffocating grip is almost impossible. However, something that is much easier to focus on is gratitude. So simplistic, yet with a magnitude that cannot be conquered. Visualise gratitude as a candle: once lit, it is used to light other candles. And within minutes, you have a whole room of brightly lit candles in every colour.

Never underestimate the hidden powers of gratitude. And it is so easy to cultivate, no matter how b…

Forgiveness

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As with most aspects of life, forgiveness pivots on duality. It is an extremely powerful force that dissolves and transcends the constricting binds between two people. And yet, by human default, we seem to relish in the idea of desperately clutching onto feelings of bitterness, resentment and blame. Why do we enjoy this self-defeating behaviour?
Let’s begin by understanding that forgiveness is less about the physical act, and far more about the energetic transformation that occurs. The physical act of forgiveness takes a lot of courage. It means starting by telling our ego that it is no longer in control; that we choose to actively release all the negative emotions that we have been shielding ourselves with since the hurtful incident occurred. It means choosing to stop labelling ourselves as a victim; to stop needing pity; and to stop allowing hurt to define who we are.
Also remember that forgiveness is less about the other person, and more about us. What does this mean? Making the cons…

Understanding Respect

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While trying to teach my three-year-old that it is important for her to respect her toys, I very quickly realised that I was trying to impress on her an abstract word that needs to be defined for it to be understood. It raised the following questions for me: How do we define respect? How are we taught what respect is? How do we cultivate self-respect as well as respect for everything and everyone around us? Defining Respect
Respect is defined as a sense of the worth or excellence of a person, quality or ability. It is defined as a personal value that causes somebody to act with appreciation, care and consideration. When defined in these simple terms, it is difficult to then understand why it is so enigmatic and rare in today’s society. Surely such a simple act of treating others in ways that show care and consideration would be a trait that is automatically found in all of us?

Learning Respect
My daughter helped me to understand how this disconnect can occur from a very young age, and how…